{"id":3009,"date":"2020-01-31T09:50:45","date_gmt":"2020-01-31T14:50:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.graymanwrites.com\/blog\/?p=3009"},"modified":"2020-01-31T09:50:45","modified_gmt":"2020-01-31T14:50:45","slug":"updated-grief-condition-model","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.grayrinehart.com\/blog\/updated-grief-condition-model\/","title":{"rendered":"Updated Grief Condition Model"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Yesterday I laid out a <a href=\"http:\/\/www.graymanwrites.com\/blog\/grief-condition-three-griefcon-3\/\">five-point &#8220;Grief Condition&#8221; model<\/a>, but with the caveat that it could stand to be adjusted somewhat. It didn&#8217;t take long to come up with a more flexible version that allows for a wider range of emotional responses.<\/p>\n<p>The first version only allowed for tears, but grief\u00a0comes with\u00a0more than just sadness. This version doesn&#8217;t specify any single response, so it allows for other emotions such as anger, guilt, loneliness, etc., as follows:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>GRIEFCON 5: &#8220;Normal&#8221; life, with grief (rare emotional reactions, prompted by especially poignant reminders or memories)<\/li>\n<li>GRIEFCON 4: &#8220;Normal&#8221; grief, with life (occasional emotional reactions, at ordinarily benign reminders)<\/li>\n<li>GRIEFCON 3: Significant grief (unexpected emotional reactions, at even happy reminders)<\/li>\n<li>GRIEFCON 2: Overwhelming grief (frequent emotional reactions, approaching outbursts, with little prompting)<\/li>\n<li>GRIEFCON 1: Maximum grief (nearly constant, strong emotional outbursts, brought on by next to nothing)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>And as before, beyond GRIEFCON 1 would be nuclear grief: total war with myself, deep despair, characterized by constant, crushing floods of emotion.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"http:\/\/www.graymanwrites.com\/pix\/blog\/2020\/GriefConModel.jpg\" alt=\" \" \/><\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s still not a perfect model, but it may be useful. 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